Have you ever wondered why phone sex is big business? Guys spend lots of dollars a minute on hot dirty talk from lustful women. And women swoon over a sexy voice and devour romance novels with descriptive scenes of seduction. Although most women and men tend to be shy about expressing their erotic desires, we all love hearing a sexy voice focused on turning us on. With a few techniques, you can learn to use your voice as a powerful auditory aphrodisiac. Dirty talk is hot foreplay when you discover your special love language.

Talking dirty is not just about using mean or even obscene words. It is about the emotions and desires that you want to convey and express. Depending on the context, you may want to shout profanities with unbridled passion or whisper the same words in public as a flirtatious hint of your playful intentions. Consider the sensual whisper of a seductress, the harsh command of a dominatrix, or the ecstatic moans of a porn star. You can stimulate your lover’s erotic imagination with explicit and descriptive details or seduce them with simple phrases said in a sexy tone.

To be effective, your erotic conversation must feel natural to you so that you feel comfortable and confident in what you say and how you say it. This comes from practice and becoming more aware of what you both like. Some words and phrases may feel and sound awkward at first. Here are some ways to practice talking dirty:

• When you are reading or watching a movie, keep track of the sexy words used in the romantic or exciting scenes. Make a list of erotic phrases that you can use, and when you’re alone, practice saying them out loud in a sexy voice. Get familiar with how words sound and how they make you feel.
• Get yourself erotic literature that includes descriptive terms for various body parts and sexual activities. Include material your lover would read. Read short, exciting passages aloud and experiment with different ways to make them sound seductive as she speaks them. Try whispering, lowering or raising your pitch, using a throaty purr, or even speaking with an accent.
• Write a fantasy or short erotic story that involves you and your lover. Weave together words and phrases that you find exciting (from above). Read the story out loud to yourself using different types of voices to see which versions you find most exciting.
• Write a list of sexual compliments (for example, “I love the way you…”, “It feels so good when…”) and wishes (for example, “I want your hot tongue…”, ” Use your fingers to…”). Say them out loud the way you imagine using them. She may want to practice them while she masturbates to feel how the words add to her arousal.

Once you feel confident with your listening skills, here are some ways to use erotic talk to spice up your sex life:

• In a public situation, seductively whisper how you want to rape your lover. Build anticipation with naughty ideas that could come true before you get home.
• Use erotically encouraging words to describe exactly what you want and need in order to reach an intense orgasm. Hearing your own words can also be extremely exciting.
• When it comes to internet dating, your first phone call is extremely important. A seductive voice and flirty words can stimulate intense desire and a sense of attraction to you.
• Engage in phone sex with your partner when you’re apart (or even in separate rooms). Keep long distance relationships hot and passionate.
• Leave naughty voice messages that will have your lover running home craving your touch.
• Record a sexy story or fantasy on your computer and download it to your lover’s MP3 player or iPod. Since so many play videos now, you can even use a webcam to record a sexy video of yourself telling the erotic story.
• Stimulate your lover’s erotic imagination while making love. With their eyes closed, lead them into a fantasy with your voice.
• When you engage in soft bondage play while blindfolded, use your voice to tease and entice your submissive lover. Describe what you are going to do before you do it (or surprise them and do something totally unexpected).

Remember that you are using dirty talk to arouse both yourself and your lover. Keep in mind, however, that for some people, certain words have emotional triggers for bad memories. If you hit a nerve, learn from each other and adapt. When you are open and honest about sex, you will both feel empowered and more willing to express your erotic desires. Learn to make love with words and you can set off sexual fireworks with hot mental foreplay.

Find out how you can use the power of your voice to build sexual tension, heighten passion, and even trigger intense orgasms with near-hypnotic control. You will be amazed at the sexual pleasures you will unleash when you discover the secrets of talking dirty.