I sometimes hear from wives who can’t help but wonder if their husband still thinks about the woman he cheated on and had an affair with, especially during intimate moments like having sex. Intimacy and sex can be hard enough after cheating, but wondering if he thinks about the other woman can make things worse.

I heard a wife say, “My husband cheated on me with one of his clients. He told me about it and he couldn’t apologize enough. He begged me to give him another chance and promised to show me that he can be a good and faithful husband. I still love him and we have kids together, so I’m giving him that chance. For the most part, we’re fine. But the sex is interesting. Because honestly, it’s a little better than it was before the affair. He’s much more excited during it. So this makes me wonder if he is thinking about the other woman when we make love. I have asked him about this and he has denied it. But I don’t believe him. So what is the truth? Men think of the other woman when they have sex with their wife, does this mean that he still has feelings for her or that he is going to cheat on her again, I will answer this as best as I can in the next article.

I’m not going to lie to you. Yes, men sometimes think of the other woman when they have sex with their wives. But they are not always thinking of her longingly or excited by these thoughts. Sometimes when he thinks of her, he regrets her because he realizes how badly he’s done and how much he’s hurt two different people with his poor decision making and lack of impulse control. .

And yes, some men will actually think about previous sexual encounters with the other woman when they are with their wife, but often they don’t on purpose and regret it when it happens. Frankly speaking, they cannot control the thoughts that arise in her head and this does not mean that they still love the other woman or intend to pursue her once more.

I think it’s fair to say that we’ve all had moments when images of other people come to mind when we’re interacting with our spouse. Sometimes it’s a celebrity or an old boyfriend or even a coworker. We often feel embarrassed or confused by this, but we also can’t control the thoughts that come into our heads. And as long as we don’t act on it or use it to get away from our spouse, I don’t think it’s harmful, especially since we can’t help it.

The more you heal and the more time passes, the less this will happen: This situation was still quite fresh for this couple. Frankly, I had no idea what this husband might have been thinking during intimacy, but I didn’t find it strange that the husband was more excited. Often people are very relieved that they have been given another chance, so yes, they are very aroused during sex. Because they know how close they came to losing their spouse and never having sex with them again.

If the husband was in denial of these thoughts, then I felt it was a good idea for the wife to trust his statements and carry on, but also to be aware. Honestly, the more time that elapses between your healing and the adventure, the less likely it is that the thoughts and memories will continue.

It was my opinion that the best thing for the wife to do at this point was to continue trying to heal her marriage and give her husband the benefit of the doubt, unless he gave her a reason not to. She admitted that her husband had not acted strangely and that, for the most part, he was caring and loving. So it made sense for her to continue as before. While it was possible for her to think of the other woman from time to time, these thoughts and feelings should continue to fade, especially as healing continues.

But to answer the question posed, it may be a mistake to assume that your husband is thinking of the other woman every time you have sex. I’m not saying this isn’t possible because it is. But the fact that he has thoughts appearing in her head may be normal and does not mean that he still desires the other woman or that he has any intention of getting back together with her.

At this point, the husband had been doing exactly what he had promised. He was being attentive, remorseful, and loving. So until that changed, I felt the wife should try really hard not to dwell on this. Because once you fully strengthen and heal your own marriage and a good amount of time has passed, then you shouldn’t have to worry about her anymore.